Aaha Aaha By Kalyanamalai Mohan

Thiruvarur Komala
The dead came alive
Pannai Veetu Thirumanam
The girl flew to U.S to select her groom
Two marriages under the same Pandal
Sattanadar the great
Dubai Brother in law’s marriage
Mala's marriage is a Maha mela
Vatsala's Marriage A Coach without engine
The game played by the girl’s father
Caught in the trap of sorrow – an experience which a parent should never come across
Vidhya’s decisiveness is right
Engineer Mappillai
What had happened in aunt's house
Mangalam vows and fights injustice
Love is stronger than brain
Marriages Through Kalyaanamalai
The gifted wife
God's will
Has she done it
One who is destined to the other
Is my family an unfortunate one
The one & only heart & Soul of mine
Experience is a lesson
What is preventing the duo from uniting in wedlock
Long live good souls
Vathsala marriage
Be patient while looking for alliances
They were not mere words, but reality
We are all here for her
Kalyaana vaibhogame
Questions and my answers
Candid outlook

“They were not mere words, but reality…!”

“Our daughter-in-law would be our daughter after marriage” – these are the standard words of almost all the parents, especially of mothers of all the boys at the time of their looking for alliances for their sons. Recently, I got opportunities to see these words in real action.

Last week, I attended a betrothal function. The alliance was initiated by Kalyanamalai. They had been looking for an alliance since four or five years. They had even registered with their community association and had sought the help of their relatives and friends in this connection. But nothing happened. And, they registered with Kalyanamalai a few months back. The alliance was finalized within just three months. They were extremely happy. When they came to my office for registration, both Krishnan and Vimala, the parents of the boy told me the same thing – their daughter-in-law would be their daughter after marriage. “Mohan, I’ve two sons and one daughter. My daughter is married and is abroad. My first son is married. My daughter-in-law is more than compensating the absence of my daughter. We want a similarly nice girl for our second son also. I can give you guarantee about her happiness,” Krishnan told me.

And, they got a very good girl for their second son also. Both the parties were very happy with the alliance. And, I was doubly happy that the alliance was materialized through Kalyanamalai. I went to the betrothal function along with my wife. The function was conducted like a marriage in grandeur. Krishnan received us both with so much warmth. The rituals were going on. Krishnan’s daughter garlanded the bride and completed the formalities. Then another girl repeated the procedure. On enquiry, I found out that she was Krishnan’s first daughter-in-law. She had been literally treated as a daughter of Krishnan’s family! If there were more than one sister for the boy, the eldest will complete all these formalities. If there are two, then, part of the formalities will be completed by the elder and the rest by the younger. But here, all the formalities were completed by Krishnan’s daughter first, then repeated by his daughter-in-law next! I saw the literal truth in Krishnan’s words which he uttered to me on the day of registration.

Another incident had also moved me deeply. Ramachandran, a relative of mine was celebrating his son’s marriage in Hyderabad. I could reach Hyderabad only in the morning of the wedding day due to my work load. The rituals were going on. Ramachandran has only one brother, Narayanan. His daughter Sujatha was tying the knot (thaali) in the capacity of a sister-in-law as Ramachandran has no daughters. He has only a son. Sujatha is 27 years old. She has a daughter, three years old. Six months back, Sujatha’s husband Ramesh died in an accident. Sujatha, a widow, was participating in all the rituals. I was moved by the forward thinking of Ramachandran and his family. I congratulated Ramachandran not only for his son’s marriage but also for this act of humanness. “Sujatha is always our daughter. There’s no reason for surprise. I gave her the rightful respect which she deserves as our daughter, that’s all,” Ramachandran replied in a very humble tone!

Ramachandran’s family did a thing which no other person would have dared to do. And, to cap it, Ramachandran was not even conscious of his greatness; he took it as if it were a usual thing! I was spell bound to realize that the concept of ‘Forward thinking’ was literally implemented there without much ado and publicity!